Everybody has had crushes. Well, sometimes , we are not supposed to, but , everybody does.Its just something human. Something normal. It just depends on how you handle it and at times, because of the current situation we are in, we try to avoid it from moving on to the 'next stage' of the relationship.
Its kind of funny, now, when I think about it. I had a crush on a guy whom I 'thought' was a really great guy - exactly the kind of person whose fun, good listener, sporting, knows what I want and like, and loves giving me advices does not matter in whatever area or topic I asked him. He was actually my brother's friend. When I first knew him, I thought he was cold - colder than ice. Then , I applied for a job at the restaurant he's working. The first reply I got was - "Oh, we never take any women to work with us as they can never stand the heat and the workload". It was not a good start. Never mind. I decided to still go ahead with the plans of working part time there.
Hmm...let me try to recall....The first few days was just plain, working hours. I was trained under him and his colleague how to handle food, wash and prepare the plates and cutleries and others. The same as other trainee, I really focused hard to get things done correctly and fast as I cannot forget what he had said about employing 'women'.We did not talk about other things other than job related. As I have always been a fast learner, the next step was learning how to prepare the food. They were quite impress with me - including that 'guy'.
And presto! The next thing I could remember was, we were really, really close. I can't remember in detail but within maybe about 3 days, we started to be very close.We cracked jokes and laughed together. We shared good , memorable stories, not only about our friends but families too. We shared the values and exchange advices. We teased each other. When there were good songs that was played, we sang together. And I have never sing in front of people who I categorise as 'strangers' like this guy but I did.
Within few days, we just 'clicked'. Yeah...that's the word. He sort of understood how I felt, whom I was missing, what I felt like doing, what I've been through in life and what's my plan in the future. Maybe because we shared almost the same background i.e. where we came from and what we have come across before meeting each other in the UK. To add to that, both of us are married ( I was married at that time and he still is)
At the end of the working day, when the town was empty (really empty and only a few drunk fellas will be walking around), we actually ran and played like kids while heading towards the bus stop to catch the last bus. We played hide and seek, we use crumpled papers and throw to each other , etc..In a nutshell, we had a lot of fun. On off days, with my cousin and nephew, we went for picnics and walks at the town and park. He and his friend was even invited by my brother to join us whole family for a family outing.
He's like an all in one - a friend and also part of the family. And when I had to leave the UK, it was a sad moment. As both of us know that we have enjoyed our moments of being friends and support each other, and its time to part, to go back to the reality of life. Things were about to change. We promised that we would keep in touch and I could call him anytime if I need advise or someone to talk to.Knowing him for only about 2 months - felt like we've known each other for years. At times, he could call me in the wee hours - just to talk and sing to me.
And when the worst thing that I've ever dreamt of, happened to me, the first person I called was him. He was shocked and I guess he was really trying his best to give me the most appropriate advise. With his advise, I managed to go through it, to stay calm, and to be strong.
And now.....he's not my 'crush' anymore. But he still remains as a very,very good friend. I hope the best is in store for him and his family in the future.